God can save your marriage.  The institution of Marriage is ordained by God; but just because God ordains something, does not mean it will be easy.  All relationships have struggles. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce.  This includes Christian unions.  This country is experiencing divorce rates as high as secular marriages. Whether religious or not, many have uttered these words as a prayer…”God, can you save my marriage?”  The divorce rate in America for the first marriage is 41%, the divorce rate for the second marriage is even higher, 60%, and the divorce rate for the third is higher yet, at a whopping 73%!

One can almost feel, why bother getting married at all, with such bad odds?  Nevertheless, incurable romantics get married every day, hoping they will not become a statistic. The first thing you must know is that God loves you and that though you are suffering, He has not abandoned or forgotten you or your family.

 God can Save your Marriage

I do not speak as a professional relationship counselor, but as someone who has experienced the restoration of their marriage.  I understand how the lack of communication can erode a relationship, and I understand the pain of betrayal.  I know what it is like to cry out to God for the answers I needed to be whole again.

I have often heard that your relationship cannot be saved unless both people want it.  I have not found that not to be true in my case.  I believe that God will work with the party who is willing to submit himself to Him. Work on me? They are the one who is messing up!  I know it is a little difficult to hear when you are hurting, but a relationship does not break down by itself.  Often both parties have played a part in its demise.

It is easier to hold resentment and unforgiveness when you feel that you have done no wrong.  As you seek the face of God, He will shine His light on your heart and your own sin.  The Spirit of God will gently point out areas where you have failed, and as He shows you, don’t argue, but say, “yes Lord,” and repent. When your eyes are opened to your own faults, it is a little easier to understand the failure of your partner.

I do not say that God allowed problems with your relations but He will take what the enemy sent for evil and use it for your good. God wants to get your attention and God wants to have your heart completely. Once you have presented your whole heart to the Father, then. He will begin with you.

Allow the Lord to remove anything that has hindered your walk with him, He will begin to cleanse, renew you and give you new strength.  Now you have an open line to pray for your spouse.  Many men and woman who have stood in the gap for their spouses have come out true prayer warriors.  Allow the Spirit of God to use this situation to perfect your faith in Him.

Tip of the Day – Why you Need Spiritual Discernment

What do you do When you Fall Out of Love

Love in not a feeling but it is a decision. You have made a decision to love this person through sickness and health.  Love is a verb and something that is to be demonstrated. You cannot go by feeling, as feelings change throughout a relationship. True love grows and matures, and with that maturity, true commitment, and responsibility.

It is like faith. Faith without works is dead being alone.  Faith is not faith because you feel it, but it is faith because you cannot see it or feel it.  You have made a commitment to this person, and that commitment must remain when you feel your love the person or not.

God commanded, “Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” Do you see the sacrificial love has for us? This is the love each man should have for his wife. That sacrificial love should remain through weight gain, on sickness. It will show you how to effectively minister to your spouse.

1Peter 3:7 – Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

If men realized what a great responsibility they have to love and understand his wife, they would not be so quick to marry. This is God’s command to husbands.  You will find that if you remain firm and don’t seek love somewhere else if you begin to nurture your wife and seek to know her, love will bloom again, but it will take your full commitment.  No woman can resist a man who truly loves and understands her.  When she feels she is loved, then submission her partner will become automatic.

If men realized what a great responsibility they have to love and understand his wife, they would not be so quick to marry. This is God’s command to husbands.  You will find that if you remain firm and don’t seek love somewhere else if you begin to nurture your wife and seek to know her, love will bloom again, but it will take your full commitment.  No woman can resist a man who truly loves and understands her.  When she feels she is loved, then submission her partner will become automatic.

How do I Pray?

You are in a warfare, not just for your family, but for your spouse. The enemy will always try to use one to destroy the other. Your spouse is not the real enemy.  Ephesians 6:12 our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.  You are coming against spirits who has blinded the eyes of your spouse.  Remaining prayerful  is important because they enemy is also trying to attack you.  Ask the Lord to show you, the spirits that are attacking your loved one.  

Is is adultery, addiction, abuse, rejection or mental illness? As you recognized each spirit, begin to bind them and in the name of Jesus, command those strongholds to be pulled down.

Ask another Christian, who you know, has a strong prayer life, to come in agreement with you in prayer. Two are better than one. Do not share your problem with anyone who does not have a prayer life and do not share your problem with anyone who tends to gossip. Your prayers will be powerful as you come before the Lord.  Ecclesiastes 4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

*Reference – Restoration Prayer for your Relationship

 God’s Promise to Us

I do not know what the end will be for you, or your relationship.  If you ask me, can God save your relationship, I will tell you, yes, He can.  God has left us with a wonderful promise, that will bring great comfort to those who believe it. Seek His face, and when all else seems to fail, you will find Him.  Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. God’s Promise to us…

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

God Saved My Marriage! – My Testimony

Christians are not exempt from marital problems. As a matter, a fact, over 50% of Christian marriages ends in divorce.  That is as often as divorce for non-believers. It is easier to walk away than to do the hard work of praying, waiting and believing the Lord.  My husband and I were having financial and communications problems, which resulted in a separation of several months.

I wanted my marriage to work, but my husband made the choice to leave. I enlisted the prayer for my family and church for the healing and restoration of our relationship. My husband was traveling throughout the US, and from time to time; he would call me. I made it a point to be pleasant and not to fuss or argue.

My pastor encouraged me to continue to serve God with my whole heart, and not allowed the enemy to cause me to withdraw.  I continued to preach, minister, work.  One Sunday morning, I decided to visit a church that had early service, before attending my regular service. The church had about 600 members, and as I went to sit on the right side by the church, an usher stopped me, and I was redirected to a seat on the left side of the church.

I was a little upset that I could not sit where I wanted, and quickly sat down and put my purse on the floor and looked straight ahead. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed a man sitting in the seat next to me, with his hands buried in his face. I could feel such sadness radiating from him. I had an overwhelming feeling to turn to see who this man was.  I could not believe my eyes; it was my husband!

In all the seats in that church, the usher sat me right next to my estranged husband. I had moved during our separation, and my husband did not know where I was living. What a miracle! If I had not decided to visit this church before my normal service, we would not have met!  My husband and I were shocked, how God orchestrated this meeting, and we knew we were supposed to remain married! That was in God can save your marriage from divorce! That was in 1997, and we have now been married for 26 years!  My prayer is that God will restore your marriage also.

38 Replies to “Save your Marriage

  1. The testimony and the bible verses have really encouranged me and am verry mervelled how u met again with ur husband.This shows Gods love towards his children.Your testimony shows that God answers prayers at our level of understanding .I have acquired knowledge from your testimony and i believe i will be a better wife to my husband to be and also share with others that no situation under the Sun that God cann’t fix if only we let him do it.God bless you

  2. Hi your story is beautiful I am too a stander my husband is deployed in Kuwaiti for 9 months him and I aren’t speaking but I continue to trust God and praying the he retores my husband and I marriage please pray for us James and Malasia Hairston

  3. Continue to let you husband know you love him and support him. My son served a tour in Iraq and Afghanistan. There are many things to consider when ministering to your husband both natural and spiritual. We will continue to life you up before the Lord. Father we ask that you protect and cover James. Send godly men to minister hope, and the love of Jesus Christ to him. Help Malasia to be a godly wife, show her how to minister her husband. Restore communication and love to this marriage. In Jesus name.

  4. Please join ,e in prayer for the restoration of my marriage. My husband left two mi this ago. I a, lost without him.

  5. Thank you for your testimony.
    I have been standing for my marriage for about 7 months now. My wife walked out of our marriage after only 2 and a bit years of marriage.
    I have no idea where she is and what she is doing. We do not speak. We have seen each other 3 times during this separation and each time we had a great time together….but then she would state that she wasn’t coming back….and be gone soon after.
    However, I am holding onto what I can only believe is a promise that God placed into my heart that he will restore our marriage. I keep on praying that God will restore our marriage, renew our relationship.

  6. Tracy if you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior, please pray this prayer: Father, I come before you because I am a sinner. I have made lots of mistakes, and ask that you forgive me. Wash me in the blood of Jesus and make me clean. I am so sorry for my sins. I repent and turn away from my sins and turn to you, because you promised in 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I believe your word Lord, and I receive your forgiveness, I receive the gift of Salvation, through your Son Jesus Christ. Thank you Lord.

    Prayer for Marriage
    Father I ask that you restore this marriage. We bind every spirit that will hinder communication, forgiveness and love. Do a new thing in their hearts and bring Tracy’s husband home.

  7. My husband and I have decided to divorce after our house sells in a few months. Even though the subject has come up often I thought we would go through with it. But, my heart was touched. I’m in prayer . Even though he has distanced himself. I see his heart has started to soften. Please pray for our marriage restoration.

  8. Hell K: God is able to do all things. Just as he touched you heart, he can touch your husband’s heart. Lord I ask that bring reconciliation to this couple. Help them to communicate their desires to one another. Retore love, and kindness, and compassion. Thank you for doing a new thing and resparking thing love they once had for each other. In Jesus name, Amen.

  9. two years back my husband and i have a fight which lead me to move from our house to stay witg my mom and siblings. i was pregnant with twins. my husband assaulted me physically and i gave birth in seven months and lost one child. he apologised and i forgive him. though we are not living in the same house but we are still together. in january 2016 i find out that he is seeing someone whom he introduced to his family and promised to marry her. he told me that it was he was a mistake and told that lady to move out od the house. his mother and sisters are insisting that he marry her. i love my husband and i do not want to loose him. it stresses me when i think about our three children. please agree with me in prayer for our marriage to be restored.

  10. I pray with you. Your situation is so much like my own. After only 2 months, my wife left and I’ve seen her only twice. She too, had determined not to come home. We’ve been separated Since Nov.2015.It’s now Feb.22nd.I’m holding on to the promise of Jesus, that he’ll do anything I ask in his name, according to his will, that the Father will be glorified in the Son. Marriage IS God’s will. Divorce never was. It was sin and hard hearts that allowed divorce. It still is. But Jesus said, It was not meant to be that way.

  11. I pray for you and the continued restoration that seems to be occuring.May God strengthen you and your husband and allow the healing that tough both may need. amen

  12. Hello Kevin! Thanks for your prayers for my husband and myself. God is continuing to do a work in us and we are doing very well and living in harmony.

    We stand with you for the restoration of your marriage. We join our faith with your faith believing to see the of your wife and harmony in your home once again!

  13. Hello Rikhotso. I am sorry to know you are suffering so much in your marriage. I do not usually give advice, however, I do not condone a man beating a woman. His abuse lead to the death of one of your babies I am sorry. No woman deserves to be treated with such violence. Should he decide to beat you to death, your children will have no one. Run far away from this abuse. Find a safe place to raise your children in peace. Leave your usband to God, but I don’t advise you live together. I pray for your husband’s salvation, and that God will provide for you and your children. Rikhotso if you do not know Jesus as your savior, please this prayer that Jesus can come into your heart, forgive you sins and give you comfort and direction. –

    Father, I come before you because I am a sinner. I have made lots of mistakes and ask that you forgive me. Wash me in the blood of Jesus and make me clean. I am so sorry for my sins. I repent and turn away from my sins and turn to you because you promised in 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I believe your word Lord, and I receive your forgiveness, I receive the gift of Salvation, through your Son Jesus Christ. Amen

  14. Please! I’m requesting prayers for restoration of my marriage. My husband and I have been seperated for almost a year now, we were still seeing each other. I’ve been praying and giving my marriage over to God, but instead of leaving with God I kept taking it back and trying to fix it myself. We would be good for a couple weeks, and argue and each arguments would be worse than the last that continued for months. Recently out of anger and frustration I said some mean and hurtful things to him, and he’s refused to have any contact with me. I’m hurt because he has said and done worse to me, and I forgave him. I truly believe this non communication between us is God’s way of taking full control and working on us both. I don’t believe in divorce and so I’m asking anyone that reads this to pary daily for my husband and I, and to join in agreement with me that God will restore my marriage. My name is Jilliann and my husband name is Kenrick. Thank you in advance for your prayers. God bless you all.

  15. Jillian, thank you for writing. I believe you and your husband would be a great candidate for biblical marriage counseling. A third party can help you communicate more effectively.

    PRAYER: Father thank you for Jilliann and Kenrick. I ask that you will teach them to hear with the heart and be slow to speak words that can not be taken back. I bind the spirit of confusion and division and speak the peace of God over that home. Bring them back together in you love, in Jesus name.

  16. Pamela, I come to you tonight with needs of dire help, I have done nothing but love my wife Noel for 10 years, she opened up to me everything about her life, I cried and told her from day 1 I loved her, our relationship was long distance she was in Northeast Tacoma, I was in Texas, somehow someway we made the situation work and we eventually got married. I have always loved her no other woman has taken my eyes off of her, she is my heart, we have had petty arguments, none of our arguments have resulted in the police being called items broke or anything to that nature. I am a Leo she is a Scorpio, we are both bullheaded and stubborn.
    Pam I came to you because I have said every Prayer in the marriage restoration article you have, every day since I discovered this site, help pray for my wife to see what I am doing to become back one again and build our family like were trying to, I am so humbly gracious to find your prayers and your outlook, God put you in my life for a reason, I have a weird feeling about the new guy jane and her boyfriend, it does not sit right with me, they have not even lived together for a month and it is already an issue, help me pray that she see’s and what I feel, I want her to be with me side by side work for the Lord again, God help Noel and I Go down the right path together!!!

  17. Hello, Rayshun. You have shared so much. I will start with the church you were a part of. Run far and fast from any ministry always demanding money. Many denominational churches do this and frankly it is not of God. This is a spirit of bondage and control. The Gospel of Jesus Christ should be the foundation of any ministry and not the raising of money. Often the members are struggling themselves and are condemned if they can not get the money. This is the perfect example of Religion rather than Relationship with the King of Kings and Lord of Lord.

    PRAYER: I will pray for your situation. Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ. I take authority over the spirit of confusion surrounding Rayshun. God, you are not a God of confusion, but a God of Peace. We bind every spirit that comes to disrupt, harm cause division, distress, fear, sickness, and death. Bring clarity, peace, and comfort to Rayshun and everyone around him. Lead him to a ministry where the true spirit of Christ reigns draw him to you, cover Rayshun’s heart, cover his mind with your Holy Spirit. Father, Noel is running, but I as that she runs right into your arms. Calm the storms that are in her life. Cause her to surrender everything to you and send her back to Rayshun, restore their marriage, and allow them to find peace and security in you in Jesus name. Amen

  18. I ask for prayer for my husband Kelly and myself. I ask that he be restored fully to God, and I ask for restoration in our marriage. I believe wholeheartedly that God will restore our marriage, I know prayer works. Thank you in advance!

  19. Hello, Heather. As you are a woman I faith, I rejoice with you over the restoration of your marriage. God’s word is yea and Amen. We thank you Lord that it is done according to Heather’s faith in Jesus name.

  20. I ask for prayers for the restoration of my marriage. My husband left me for another woman a year ago and is still with her. He has little to no communication with me or our adult daughters and grandchildren. I have been standing since the beginning. It has been so hard financially and emotionally as he does not help us at all. We had a 22 years marriage and now he wants a divorce. I am fighting against the evil forces that is trying to break us down. All we want is that he returns home. We had no problems that I was aware of and his decision to walk away without any notice has us all still in shock. I know that my Lord is hearing me and I will accept anything that he sends my way. I trust in the Lord and believe that with him all things are possible. I do feel that husband is not happy. We had a loving and wonderful family, but i forgot to keep God centered and for that I now pay a heavy price. I ask my Heavenly Father to restore and give us a new heart to become one again. In Jesus name, Amen!

  21. I pray for restoration of my marriage with my husband, Jason and myself (Sylvia). I pray against any schemes that the enemy may have and I also pray against the spirit of confusion and division in the Holy sanctity of this marriage. Please continue to cover and protect our precious little son, Garrett during this difficult time. I praise you and thank you Lord Jesus for what you are going to do to fully restore this marriage and bind it to you!

  22. Dear Pamela please say a prayer of restoration I am a new Christian casting and repenting of my sins I give God the glory for exposing all wrongdoings.

    My husband David and I separated 2014 I am standing for restoration. I love this man and have forgiven him of everything he has done I don’t care frankly I now can see how God was trying to manoeuvre me but I listened to satans lies and hardened my heart towards him. I worry about him as he is involved with a cult 13thsun which has helped to deceive him turning a kindhearted loving sympathetic human being he has slandered me which was painful however I am convinced that God can ressurect this marriage. Please say a prayer for him to get out of this cult stop going to psychics and leave this other woman

    I am determined through Gods grace and mercy that I be the wife God wants me to my husband. Davis

  23. My husband and i separated in April 2015. I stepped outside the marriage and was very selfish and wanted to experience life on my own. I know people have been praying for me because my heart has changed and i am seeking God’s will for my life. I have rededicated myself to God and seek His perfect will for my life. It is my belief that God wants my marriage to be restored, and it is my true desire as well. My husband is having a very difficult time coming to a point of forgiveness enough to allow me back into our home. (I can’t really blame him but i am at a loss as to what else to do) we went to counseling a few times but in his last text to me it seems he considered it a waste of money. It looks like he went just long enough to get me to confess what he already knew and then he was done. Communication is difficult and always has been.
    I am hoping you will pray for my husband to have a softened heart toward me. It is my firm belief that God can restore our marriage and it could be better than it ever was…even before my infidelity. I have repented and asked God’s forgiveness and know that He is true to His Word and has forgiven me. It is my prayer now that my husband could find it in his heart to forgive me and allow me to show him how God completely changing me. I have also begun praying scripture over this situation and will add the prayers i see here as a guideline for more. Thank you.
    (My husband’s name is Bruce.)

  24. Hello, Melissa. Thank you for your request. It is good that you realize that you had made a mistake in committing adultery. Though men do it all the time, many of them find it very difficult to even imagine their wives with someone else. It will take the spirit of God to touch his heart. We encourage you to continue to move forward in your walk with the Lord. We can not guarantee the restoration of your marriage, but we know that God is able and we will pray towards that end. God bless you.

  25. Please stand with me for the restoration of my marriage and the redemption of my husband of 30+ years. He has been taken captive by sexual addiction. We are living separately, but nothing legal has changed. I’ve been standing for the last seven years, believing that Good will set him free.

  26. I have been married almost 18 years but my wife left me 10 months it has been a living hell for me i had a real bad drinking problem that through the years caused me to do a lot of things I regret and my wife does not want to try anymore she said she is done and adamit for a divorce but now that I have done a lot of soul searching about my self I want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with my wife will someone pray for me and my wife who I love dearly that our marriage is restored and that it be better than it has ever been and also pray for me that i be the husband and father she has always wanted me to be lord please reconcile my marriage in the name of Jesus and also I am praying for others who are going through because marriage is to be for a life time amen.

  27. Father in heaven,
    I ask for your unfailing love, mercy and grace be shown to this brother and his wife.
    Grant him his heart desire. Bring his wife back and I pray for the restoration of their marriage. Help him to truly repent and make him become a loving husband and a good father.
    Lord, save his marriage and this family.
    May your will be done , may your Kingdom come as it is in heaven in this brother ‘s life . In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

  28. I am standing for the restoration of my marriage of over ten years. My wife decided she didn’t want to be married anymore. We have two small children together 3 & 6. We are all heart broken by this. Please pray that my wife Avery and I will be reunited and uphold the covenant our marriage vows we took before God. I have faith and know it will happen. She suffers from alcohol abuse from the lose of her mother. Please pray for my marriage and family. Thank you Chris C.

  29. Hello. Chris. We stand in prayer with you for the healing and deliverance of your wife. I have seen many set free from addiction. I believe God. We also, pray for her salvation. We pray that the hand of God will rest upon your life and as a restored family, you will be a Godly father, husband, and example to your children and the head of your home. God bless you.

  30. I am in a separation with my wife right now.. I have come to God for help and restoration of what I sacrated to me! I know the things I have done to make this situation come about! I am working on me to fix my faults… And I am looking for some help with prayers to help restore my family!

  31. Hello, Steven. We all make mistakes and none of us is perfect. While you are working on your faults, now God will give you help to overcome. If you have not, Steven pray to ask Jesus Christ to come into your life to be your Lord and Savior. He will become a light within you that your wife will see as the change you desires in her husband. Pray this prayer: God, I know that I am a sinner and have made mistakes in my life. I repent of my sins and ask you to come into my heart. Save me and deliver me from my past. Make me a brand new man and restore my marriage. In Jesus name. Thank you, Lord.

  32. Wow..
    Reading this brief history of your restoration…i was thanking GOD for you and somehow thinking of what i am battlinh with now..since 2012 i have never set my eyes on Chuma and he never asked after us ..i only got to found out he has a patner and also 2children living with them when i contacted child maintainance here in the UK 2015.
    Is this still called a marriage even though i never signed any divorce paper.
    Is it still right to pray the prayer tagged on restore marriages?
    Am soo emotionally down now..
    But i pray Let the will of GOD take place.

  33. Please pray with me for the restoration of my marriage. We have been married for 9 years and I have anger issues, but I have been working on the same. Recently there was a dispute and my husband doesnt want to talk with me anymore, I have apologized to him and willing to change and have shown change. Please pray so that my husband comes back to me. We have 2 kids, 6 years and 6 months

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